Soulmates

According to Paulo, soulmates are not decided by us. Our bond with them is timeless. The bond has existed in our previous lifetimes and will continue to exist in the future ones. You will be able to recognise them by a special light above their left shoulders or in their eyes. And once you do, you will be united together once again by the ultimate bond of love. Life will find a new meaning.

According to F, soulmates are simply your mates from previous lives and the world in between those two lives. This means that friends and relatives we are close to or share a special bond with are soulmates as well. Then there is a twin soul. A twin soul is one that has branched out from your own soul in order to help you fulfill more karma in this lifetime. When I asked him if people usually end up with their twin souls, he just laughed and said worldly relations have no meaning in the spirit world. Finding someone in this life could be something that is predecided. However it could also be something that happens by chance. To be attracted to a person it's not necesarry to have known from another life or the spirit world.

And pooofff! After listening to him I felt like every romantic idea that I have embraced for so long was now being washed down the drain. The reason I love reading Paulo is that he takes you away from this world and helps you escape into a romantic world of your own. And for someone like me who loves escaping into a dream world, nothing could be better.
Apart from being romantic, the idea of having a predecided soulmate takes a certain pressure off you. Very often we are confused about our relationships. We wonder if we have taken the right decision. If there is someone better out there. If we've been to hasty. But knowing that this was meant to happen and there is nothing you can do to change it, helps ease the pain you are suffering.
At the same time, believing that destiny is responsible for the events in your life means that you will never take charge of your life. You will keep believing that whatever is happening is supposed and you will do nothing to change it eventhough it very much is in your hand. At the same time there are chances you will turn your back on a relationship that is really meant to be simply because you are unable to see a light above their shoulders!
So as much as I'd like to believe that there is someone who has been sne t down this earth specially for me, I'm going to be a little more practical and I'm going to keep my eyes a little more open. But hey that really doesn't mean I have to stop looking for the light, does it ? ;)